| | Re: Sex pre and post marriage like white and black
OMG, yes, don't have kids.
And if you get this solved and then you do have kids, be sure the both of you adhere to and actually believe the principal that the marriage comes first -- the order is Spouse before Children. Too many moms fall in love with their kids, put their kids first, allienate the husband, and when the husband tries to help (because thick as he is, he noticed that trying to take care of the child would make her happy), she complains because he doesn't do it right or the kid fusses because he's used to mom and she rushes in and blames the guy for something -- upsetting the baby, not being around enough to know how to do this stuff, doing it wrong, too rough, too fast, too slow, etc. etc. etc.
Anyway, don't stop accepting sex even if you feel she's not into it. Work on the relationship while enjoying less than perfect sex. Do NOT get stubborn on this and demand perfection from her. You'll regret it when you're getting zero sex and the prospect of ever having sex again becomes bleak.