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tryingtotrust · 05-26-2008, 01:01 PM

Cooper,

I too have been where you are in your marriage. Almost immediately after my husband and I married the problems began. He was(and still is) a cold person.

I suspected he was internet cheating on me. He had no interest in sex, always said that he had things on his mind. Whenever I would talk to him about how it made me feel, i ended up feeling like i was needy. I was not that way before we married. I went from happy, confident, independent to insecure, unconfident and paranoid.

I decided to look for evidence that he was not just "working" on the internet. He was very good at covering his tracks. He would always have 2 or 3 tabs open on the computer so that if i walked by, he could close one out without me being suspicious. I found charges to our joint bank account for an online dating website(sexdepravedwives). That was when I lost it. I researched and found out that it was purchased from our computer with his credit card. He also had 3 or 4 email addresses which i checked and found some very disturbing things. Even with all this, I confronted him and he denied it, freaked out, told me i was paranoid and needy. Again it was all turned around on me. We are still together, and the computer is still a big issue for me. I just have to learn to cope with it if i'm going to stay with him.

Sounds like your wife doesn't appreciate what she has. I wish so many times that my husband would show me some concern. If i get hurt or get sick, he couldn't be bothered to try to make me feel better. When the garbage piles up, i'm the one to take it to the dumpster. I have a pinched nerve in my back and he never, ever asks how its doing, even though he knows it bothers me.

Just wish that women like your wife would understand how lucky they are.

05-26-2008, 01:01 PM	#12 (permalink)
tryingtotrust Registered User Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 12	Re: questions about infidelity Cooper, I too have been where you are in your marriage. Almost immediately after my husband and I married the problems began. He was(and still is) a cold person. I suspected he was internet cheating on me. He had no interest in sex, always said that he had things on his mind. Whenever I would talk to him about how it made me feel, i ended up feeling like i was needy. I was not that way before we married. I went from happy, confident, independent to insecure, unconfident and paranoid. I decided to look for evidence that he was not just "working" on the internet. He was very good at covering his tracks. He would always have 2 or 3 tabs open on the computer so that if i walked by, he could close one out without me being suspicious. I found charges to our joint bank account for an online dating website(sexdepravedwives). That was when I lost it. I researched and found out that it was purchased from our computer with his credit card. He also had 3 or 4 email addresses which i checked and found some very disturbing things. Even with all this, I confronted him and he denied it, freaked out, told me i was paranoid and needy. Again it was all turned around on me. We are still together, and the computer is still a big issue for me. I just have to learn to cope with it if i'm going to stay with him. Sounds like your wife doesn't appreciate what she has. I wish so many times that my husband would show me some concern. If i get hurt or get sick, he couldn't be bothered to try to make me feel better. When the garbage piles up, i'm the one to take it to the dumpster. I have a pinched nerve in my back and he never, ever asks how its doing, even though he knows it bothers me. Just wish that women like your wife would understand how lucky they are.