We are taking a road trip to see my in laws next month. My husband and I have decided to stay with his brother.
The first time we visited, we stayed at my MIL's house. I will never stay there again as long as she is alive. I did NOT feel comfortable because my MIL complained about everything. She got very angry when my husband and I took a nap together, after a 16 hour drive. My MIL called me fat in front of a bunch of people and proceeded to nag me every time she saw me eat. I want to enjoy my time with my BIL, his wife and our niece.
So my husband told my MIL that we are staying with his brother. For some reason, my MIL is pretending we did not tell her that and she is babbling about preparing the extra bedroom for us.

I don't know if this is a controlling tactic or my MIL really did not understand that we were staying with her other son. My SIL thinks we should just stay with my MIL and visit them during the day-I was warned that staying with them would cause a rift.
My husband says he will tell his mother once again where we are staying. I don't want to cause a fight...do you think we should just stay with my MIL and be uncomfortable or do what we originally planned?