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Honeystly · 07-06-2012, 11:45 PM

Ok so here goes a bizarre update:
Yesterday was the day I went out. Stbxh hung out with the kids during the day as usual and then he stayed at the house when they went to sleep so I could go out. I was out at a work function with my girlfriend for about 3 hours (first time in 3 years!). It was ok, had a couple of beers and watched my coworkers make asses out of themselves. I caught 3 teachers doing coke in the toilet.... cut another one from telling me her rape story, etc. Just made me remember why I don't tend to go out as much, and how much I loved being married with kids.... Anywhoo, so I got home around 11:30, as everybody was too pissed and went to party elsewhere. So I get home and almost all the lights are on. I found that a bit strange. When I opened the door my whole house was shiny clean! I mean dishes washed, containers stacked, kitchen spotless, all toys put away, 10 weeks worth of laundry folded, socks paired, dvds in their cases, remotes lined up, books shelved. I mean , spotless!!!! He showed me what he did and apologised for not finding all the socks. WTF????? wtf, wtf?I just kinda stood there. Then I gave him a quick overview of my weird night and he went home. Before he left he asked if he could see the kids more in the next two weeks, as we both have school holidays now so we don't work (teachers). Our parenting agreement gives him a week when the kids sleep over, so I said ok, we'll chat later, when he wants them. WtF? this makes NO sense. None. Guilt? Pity? The house was a mess as I worked the whole term and me and the kids have been pretty sick for the past few days. Maybe he finally sees that OW is not all she's cracked up to be at 18? I really don't think it's about R. No. That's not it. Maybe he's afraid of loneliness if it doesn't work out and wants me to be his friend? WTF? Any thoughts buds?

07-06-2012, 11:45 PM	#15 (permalink)
Honeystly Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 376	Re: Update: Almost 6 months since left....something is changing Ok so here goes a bizarre update: Yesterday was the day I went out. Stbxh hung out with the kids during the day as usual and then he stayed at the house when they went to sleep so I could go out. I was out at a work function with my girlfriend for about 3 hours (first time in 3 years!). It was ok, had a couple of beers and watched my coworkers make asses out of themselves. I caught 3 teachers doing coke in the toilet.... cut another one from telling me her rape story, etc. Just made me remember why I don't tend to go out as much, and how much I loved being married with kids.... Anywhoo, so I got home around 11:30, as everybody was too pissed and went to party elsewhere. So I get home and almost all the lights are on. I found that a bit strange. When I opened the door my whole house was shiny clean! I mean dishes washed, containers stacked, kitchen spotless, all toys put away, 10 weeks worth of laundry folded, socks paired, dvds in their cases, remotes lined up, books shelved. I mean , spotless!!!! He showed me what he did and apologised for not finding all the socks. WTF????? wtf, wtf?I just kinda stood there. Then I gave him a quick overview of my weird night and he went home. Before he left he asked if he could see the kids more in the next two weeks, as we both have school holidays now so we don't work (teachers). Our parenting agreement gives him a week when the kids sleep over, so I said ok, we'll chat later, when he wants them. WtF? this makes NO sense. None. Guilt? Pity? The house was a mess as I worked the whole term and me and the kids have been pretty sick for the past few days. Maybe he finally sees that OW is not all she's cracked up to be at 18? I really don't think it's about R. No. That's not it. Maybe he's afraid of loneliness if it doesn't work out and wants me to be his friend? WTF? Any thoughts buds?