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swedish · 05-27-2008, 07:11 AM

Hi Believer,

Sorry to hear the separation has not given him the wake-up call you were hoping for. I don't blame you for preparing for a future without him as it sounds as though he is not ready to be open/honest with you even at such a critical point in your marriage.

If he truly cannot see himself in a monogamous marriage, it would be nice if he would respect you enough to admit that, but it seems he's not even admitting that to himself.

He probably could benefit from counseling but I wouldn't blame you for not waiting in the wings only to find out he cannot commit to an honest monogamous marriage with you. Real change could take a long time for him just thinking since the separation didn't seem to rattle his cage.

Best of luck always, and yes please keep me updated on how you are doing.

05-27-2008, 07:11 AM	#8 (permalink)
swedish Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 588	Re: work things out or move on?? Hi Believer, Sorry to hear the separation has not given him the wake-up call you were hoping for. I don't blame you for preparing for a future without him as it sounds as though he is not ready to be open/honest with you even at such a critical point in your marriage. If he truly cannot see himself in a monogamous marriage, it would be nice if he would respect you enough to admit that, but it seems he's not even admitting that to himself. He probably could benefit from counseling but I wouldn't blame you for not waiting in the wings only to find out he cannot commit to an honest monogamous marriage with you. Real change could take a long time for him just thinking since the separation didn't seem to rattle his cage. Best of luck always, and yes please keep me updated on how you are doing.