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Old 05-27-2008, 11:01 AM   #6 (permalink)
lisakifttherapy
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Default Re: I think my husband is bi polar and it's leading us to a divorce. Please help.

You won't be able to fix this. This is a relationship problem that may stem from an individual problem if he is bipolar. You both need to be willing to work on it - and if he isn't, your relationship will remain in trouble.

Like some of the other posters have said - you really can't force someone into a therapist's office. One would hope he would see the impact of his behavior on you (and possibly others) as a sign to explore what's happening. Mental health disorders in general can be really hard on relationships - especially if they aren't getting treated ie depression, anxiety, bipolar. The partner experiencing the symptoms of the disorder can feel like they're on a rollercoaster ride.

Try communicating with him in a way that's dissarming using "I feel" statements such as "I'm feeling really hurt right now by your moodiness." If he takes a hard line stance with you, like - "this is your problem" you might want to consider what's best for you in the big picture. Good luck!
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