| | Re: Withholding sex
I think you need to give her some respect here and not just jump to the conclusion that she is playing games or manipulating. She has said that she is concerned about sex becoming boring.
She’s told you the problem. IT’s becoming boring and monotonous to her. My guess is that the frequency is getting to her as well. It takes time for a woman’s body to build up the hormones needed to want sex.
I’ve been through this where I went through a time of very high frequency of sex and came to a point where I did not want it for a while… a few days. And yes it felt boring at that point. Given a few days to recharge and I was back to the wanting it daily.
If you think she’s manipulative… drop her. She does not need a man who thinks she is manipulative any more than you need a manipulative woman.
If you respect her and trust her than work with her. If you respect her request for no sex for a month, I’ll bet she does not last a month. The respect alone will be a turn on.
One thing that would really help the two of you at this stage of your relationship is to take this time out and do some relationship building things. Take a look at the links in my signature block below for building a passionate marriage. Get the books, read them together and do the work they tell you to do. One of the books, “His Needs, Her Needs” has you both list your needs. This will give you both a chance to discuss your needs in the way of how often to have sex, etc.