Hi Swedish - thanks for listening & giving an encouraging word. I like that term " critical point" in our marriage. It seems rather obviuos, that he does not see it as so "critical" & maybe sees this seperation as time live it up without the watchful eye of his wife nearby.
I have not spoken to him about my recent discovery ( the receipt) & not sure how I plan to do it at this point.
Being the practical person that I am, I will get all my duck in a row & be prepared on my end for the next step. In the past we were operating on his time table & when things were convenient for him. Mainly because I was so afraid to loose him or upset any smooth sailings we might have had.
Now the tables have turned in this scenario becasue he is the one being "hopeful" that we will get back together & not sure how I feel & what will happen next.
I guess my next stage in this process will be grieving the "loss of marriage" - what I thought it meant to be married. My dreams of growing old together & sharing my life with someone I love & thought loved me. Bringing myself to admit & telling others about our situation & not being "embarrassed" about it. I will need to find a new identity, accepting the reality that I will not be a "wife" for much longer. It is a bit scary but as I think about it more, it is the way things will have to be.
It won't be easy but I know that I can do it & still be a great mom to my kids. Just wish I had family near by to lend a helping hand.
My daughter finishes school next week & things are a bit stressful at work right now. so will hopefully figure out things in the coming weeks. All of this has been going on for over 3 years now, so I figure what will another few weeks make at this stage.
will keep you posted on the latest twist in my complicated life.
How are you doing? sounds like you & your husband are working through his affair. sounds like he is making the right decisions & sound committed to making up for his mistakes in any way to make you trust & feel comfortable. I wish you both the best of luck - and as you I am sure are finding out, it is a long & difficult process but hopefully you will reap the rewards of a fulfilling marriage that is even stronger than before. you can be the inspiration to others on this site
good nite