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Originally Posted by izz4u2mm
I cannot understand how a woman can just turn off the love and time , love, family, the meaning of being married etc. so easy. I always hear women say that and men on the other and go down the drain when there is a breakup!. Why do men fall apart and women just move on???. Please make me understand or let me in on a womans secret to life please.
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Hi Manny,
I don't think this is a man vs. woman thing. I'm a woman and am a 'go down the drain' type myself and find it very difficult to move on.
I believe in most cases, people want to feel safe and loved within their marriage. By safe I mean working toward the same goals financially, etc. but also that they have the support of their spouse and a safe place to fall when they are down.
If you are in a marriage where you feel this is very one-sided, you tend to become more distant and feel lonely. Resentment builds over time. I think most people that seem to 'just move on' have probably been harboring resentment for quite some time.
I don't know that there is any real secret to discover about women, but feeling emotionally connected to my husband, feeling loved and safe is the key for me to
want to be there.