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jenn0029 · 09-26-2009, 09:08 AM

My husband declared that he wanted the same situation as your wife. Because of our finances, he wanted the kids and I to live in the same house (He wanted to live in our in-law suite to which we rented out). He wanted to move on. Said "that he needed to find himself". He had shut me out emotionally and physically for so long now. I took the kids and left.

He had an affair over the summer and is begging for me back. Says that he realized what he lost.
But at what cost? I am now across the country trying to upgrade my edu, etc. I figure that I will find myself now and just concentrate on the kids as they need atleast one parent to be strong.

She maybe trying this, depends on your marriage history and stress level. If she truly loves you, she will come back. Then you will be faced up with some hard decisions. Whether she does or doesn't, you need to happy with yourself and those kids.

They are going to need some stability in their life after seeing "mom" with new BFs. AND for their sake, keep your emations behind closed doors! They can react in all the wrong ways that may affect their education, social lives, future BFs - Gfs. Some teenagers even try to recreate a new family to make up losing their present one.

09-26-2009, 09:08 AM	#23 (permalink)
jenn0029 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 5	Re: Anyway to get her back, or ? My husband declared that he wanted the same situation as your wife. Because of our finances, he wanted the kids and I to live in the same house (He wanted to live in our in-law suite to which we rented out). He wanted to move on. Said "that he needed to find himself". He had shut me out emotionally and physically for so long now. I took the kids and left. He had an affair over the summer and is begging for me back. Says that he realized what he lost. But at what cost? I am now across the country trying to upgrade my edu, etc. I figure that I will find myself now and just concentrate on the kids as they need atleast one parent to be strong. She maybe trying this, depends on your marriage history and stress level. If she truly loves you, she will come back. Then you will be faced up with some hard decisions. Whether she does or doesn't, you need to happy with yourself and those kids. They are going to need some stability in their life after seeing "mom" with new BFs. AND for their sake, keep your emations behind closed doors! They can react in all the wrong ways that may affect their education, social lives, future BFs - Gfs. Some teenagers even try to recreate a new family to make up losing their present one.