I'm sorry, I should backup
The follow up to my story is in the link titled:
"It hurts sooooo bad right now" in the Ladies forum
talkaboutmarriage.com/ladies-lounge/5745-hurts-sooooo-bad-right-now.html
She moved out about two months ago to an apartment just down the street.
I am spending lots of time with the kids, I'm good
I'm emotionally detached
I actually met him yesterday, no feelings at all about it.
He's not me,
He's actually completely different than me, low achiever, not as smart as me, seems kind of dull, not athletic, he's white, he's shorter than me.
In itself, nothing wrong these characteristics, but they are all contrary to what my X said she was attracted to.
She always wanted someone dark, handsome, smart, athletic, and able to protect her.
The intelligent thing, I know she will miss that about me.
The only thing she has said positive about her new man is, "I can talk to him", maybe that's enough, or maybe he just has nothing to say.
Either way, it is over, no where to go from here except out.
Thanks for caring people !!