I recently had an arguement with my significant other of 13 years. We are not married but we have two children (2 & 4). He approached me to have a discussion about something that bothered him after I had just worked a 12 hour night shift in which we were short staffed (It was a bad night). When we have discussions, i feel like he is lecturing me instead of discussing. So, i tend to tune out or only respond when he says something that really gets to me. Anyway, he left the room mad when i told him i didnt' want to discuss this now. He slammed the door really hard as he left. I was immediately filled with rage. I quickly went after him. He was in the driveway about to get in his truck and i said, "i want you to leave now and not come back"
I really didn't mean it at that time. But he did it. He packed up pretty much everything that was his and moved in with a family memeber. Anyway, it has been almost a week. We have talked, he wants to move back in, but i have enjoyed the separation. It has allowed me to relax and think. He wants to move back in and do MC. I want him to stay moved out and us to MC and as things get better move him back in.
I the past week we have done things together with the kids. I have realized or atleast i feel like he and i are better off being friends. There was less stress between us, we laughed and joked with eachother. It was nice! I am just not sure what to do.....anyone else out there been in a similar situation or is experiencing it now. Could really use someone to help me sort this out.