Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Guys who are divorced. How bad did you get hit financially?

BeachGuy · 07-13-2012, 02:02 PM

I'm scared to death to file for what I might get ordered to pay her. I'm fine with "fair", child support, alimony (for a time), etc. But I'm worried sick I'm going to end up paying her alimony for the rest of her life, her getting all of the house (which we have $50K equity in), etc. I just have this vision of me living in a cardboard box on the beach after it's all over.

I want so bad to get divorced but the financial fear is paralyzing me. She hasn't worked in 14 years but does have a college degree. I know it's considered a "long term" marriage and all that.

Did you guys go through this fear? Or you ladies if you were the sole breadwinner in your family when you filed?

What can I do to get past this and just file the damn papers? I'm sure I've built this up to be way worse in my mind than it probably will be.

Thanks.

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BeachGuy Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 533	Guys who are divorced. How bad did you get hit financially? I'm scared to death to file for what I might get ordered to pay her. I'm fine with "fair", child support, alimony (for a time), etc. But I'm worried sick I'm going to end up paying her alimony for the rest of her life, her getting all of the house (which we have $50K equity in), etc. I just have this vision of me living in a cardboard box on the beach after it's all over. I want so bad to get divorced but the financial fear is paralyzing me. She hasn't worked in 14 years but does have a college degree. I know it's considered a "long term" marriage and all that. Did you guys go through this fear? Or you ladies if you were the sole breadwinner in your family when you filed? What can I do to get past this and just file the damn papers? I'm sure I've built this up to be way worse in my mind than it probably will be. Thanks.