| | Re: Anal Question
I actually registered just so I could answer this question lol
My bf and I have recently begun doing anal and I love it. I mean, I cum like crazy, I really love it. Neither of us had done it before so I did some reading after the first time. Oh, I should add that he is quite big / well endowed, I can barely put my fingers all the way around. And I am small, only 100lbs.
Make sure she goes to the bathroom first, if she normally has difficulty pooing (some girls do! The poo is too big and it hurts) she should probably increase her fiber, like a lot, just for the sake of making anal easier on her. So, assuming she's gone poo that day:
It's actually the sphincter that you need to worry about the most, it has a reflex to get tight to hold stuff in. You need to rub it a lot, without penetrating at all (even with a finger) to get it to loosen up. When it is loose, assuming you have a ton of lube, you'll be able to slide in with little problems.
The "accidents" the day after could be either because she is injured (tears, bleeding, swollen) which making sure she is loose first will help or it could be the addition of your cum and the lube mixing together with whatever is inside and then dripping out because it is liquid. I have reduced this by us only doing it at night so that it has time to settle before I'm up and walking around. It's like with a girl's period. She could start in the middle of the night and not leak out because she's stationary but when she is out during the day it comes out. So with the extra fluid from anal sex, if you do it at night only and then in the morning she just sits on the toilet in a relaxed fashion most of it will come out. After that she can use a panty liner but it's been fine for me.
Last but not least when you are actually having sex stay inside as deep as you can, don't let the head of your penis come out. With vaginal sex usually the rib/edge of the head is super hot to feel coming in and out but with anal sex you are making the sphincter contract and expand over and over and this is what hurts me. If my boyfriend stays in then the sphincter is relaxed/expanded and doesn't try to tighten up (therefore less tearing as it the penis stretches it out again on the in-thrust).
Hope this helps!