| | Re: Guys who are divorced. How bad did you get hit financially?
I can answer for my ex b/c we also did our own paperwork--actually, I did it and he just signed. We had nothing at the outset, and not all that much to divide, but it was split 50/50.
Child support will be determined by the laws of your state. In WI, our two incomes were averaged, and then the difference was multiplied by some factor based on the number of kids (25%) or something, and then given to the person with the lower income (me, in this case).
I refused spousal support. Didn't want a dime of his future earnings. I did get 1/3 of his retirement--I had been a stay-at-home mom for several years with our kids, and this was a way to balance out the fact that I had sacrificed earning/retirement potential. We were married over 20 years.
It has been about 3 years now and both or us are living at about the same standard of living as before--which was always modest. I improved my employment options and earn 1/2 as much closer to what he does now, but he won't try to change the settlement because I did not touch his "extra" summer school earnings in writing up our settlement and I didn't take spousal support. He'd be nuts to reopen things now.