| | Re: How do you cope?
She has to become completely transparent to you. Cell phone, emails, bank accounts, credit card statements, etc. you must have unhindered access whenever you want. She must write a no contact letter and give to him with you there. She must account for her whereabouts 100% of the time. She must be truly remorseful - not just sorry she got caught. She should be willing to do anything for you right now. ANYTHING. to win you back.
She is on probation, until YOU decide if you will take her back.
If she does these things it will help you. Other than that, time.