cdm9999

I see lots of suggestions about using VARs to secretly record conversations between WSs and OPs... i would like to put one in the car which would catch at least one sided conversations or even both if they are both in the car. However, I learned that it is illegal to record conversations between unknowing parties (I am in NY) .... If I recorded myself and my WH that would be legal, but not unknowing parties if I am not in the conversation.

SOOOOO my question is, even though this would be my evidence of the affair, I feel I couldn't use it to prove anything or proof of adultery. And even if I just confronted him with my proof just so he knows I have proof, I would be worried he could get me in trouble with the law if he was real nasty about it.

What have people done in this case? Do you just prove to yourself using these or do you confront? I've never seen this issue brought up. thanks for advice