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JoyB · 07-13-2012, 09:34 PM

Hi dontwanttoloseher,

You sound like a fun guy going through a really frustrating and confusing time.

Sitting here, it sounds like your wife has some self-esteem/security troubles and is projecting them on you. I don't think her love for you is wavering but I think she fears competition and is trying to elevate or defend herself when she accuses or snaps at you.

What sort of things do you do together to validate your relationship? How do you show her (rather than tell her) how you feel? Is there something special you to share that only you two know about that brings up a wonderful memory? Perhaps sharing some of those times or setting aside some special time every day/week where you can cherish each other will help her see how much you love her and only her.

Insecurities are hard to deal with - especially if not openly communicated.

I'll be thinking about you as you move forward this week!

07-13-2012, 09:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
JoyB Registered User Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 1	Re: Are we still in 'love' Hi dontwanttoloseher, You sound like a fun guy going through a really frustrating and confusing time. Sitting here, it sounds like your wife has some self-esteem/security troubles and is projecting them on you. I don't think her love for you is wavering but I think she fears competition and is trying to elevate or defend herself when she accuses or snaps at you. What sort of things do you do together to validate your relationship? How do you show her (rather than tell her) how you feel? Is there something special you to share that only you two know about that brings up a wonderful memory? Perhaps sharing some of those times or setting aside some special time every day/week where you can cherish each other will help her see how much you love her and only her. Insecurities are hard to deal with - especially if not openly communicated. I'll be thinking about you as you move forward this week!