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Russell · 05-30-2008, 06:38 PM

Manny...
First things first, I don't know if anyone's told you this... but your broken. Don't feel bad, so am I. However, I made a concious decision to try to heal myself. I made that decision when my wife came home and told me she was having an affair and wanted to leave me. I did a 180 degree turn around. And I LOVE IT.

I have time for my child, I am more in love with my wife than ever, and I feel that she is starting to trusdst me again as well as I am starting to trust her as well. It takes time to heal from these incidents. And you must tell your wife how you feel. She is supposed to be your best friend, and if she cares about you when you tell her that you have been having suicidal thoughts, and have been contemplating suicide... then that will get her attention. Once you have her attention, you can ask her your questions. Ask her why she aborted that child and that you want the REAL reason, not that BS she fed you. Personally, be ready for your fears to be confirmed.

However, if you want change in her, first you have to change yourself. Like I said, your broken, and you have to fix yourself.

I don't pray for anyone for I don't feel there is a God. However, I do send my well wishes.

I mean, why would God let us suffer like this if we are devoted and faithful, the way I was. Then... my entire life crashed around me.

You can only depend on yourself, because noone else is going to help you... except maybe your best friend.

05-30-2008, 06:38 PM	#22 (permalink)
Russell Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 58	Re: Feeling hollow inside Manny... First things first, I don't know if anyone's told you this... but your broken. Don't feel bad, so am I. However, I made a concious decision to try to heal myself. I made that decision when my wife came home and told me she was having an affair and wanted to leave me. I did a 180 degree turn around. And I LOVE IT. I have time for my child, I am more in love with my wife than ever, and I feel that she is starting to trusdst me again as well as I am starting to trust her as well. It takes time to heal from these incidents. And you must tell your wife how you feel. She is supposed to be your best friend, and if she cares about you when you tell her that you have been having suicidal thoughts, and have been contemplating suicide... then that will get her attention. Once you have her attention, you can ask her your questions. Ask her why she aborted that child and that you want the REAL reason, not that BS she fed you. Personally, be ready for your fears to be confirmed. However, if you want change in her, first you have to change yourself. Like I said, your broken, and you have to fix yourself. I don't pray for anyone for I don't feel there is a God. However, I do send my well wishes. I mean, why would God let us suffer like this if we are devoted and faithful, the way I was. Then... my entire life crashed around me. You can only depend on yourself, because noone else is going to help you... except maybe your best friend. __________________ Hi, my name is Russ, and I'm a recovering alcoholic. Sober since 27 March, 2008.