Originally Posted by forlorn99
This is because she is living a fantasy with the other man. There are no kids to take care of in their private world, there are no bills no problems etc.. She is only seeing the very best of him put into just the perfect light. Its called the affair fog by some people on this site. It will go away but you need to snap her out of it. There are lots of great posts on it and maybe someone with more experience in dealing with it could help you.
I can say that it will not last.. you need to focus on yourself and maybe do 180 on her until the fog goes away?
Holy crap you are right. Why didn't I think about the "affair fog" before. Sheesh! I've read some of those posts but it didn't even register. Now that you've said it you are absolutely right. I can't tell you how good that makes me feel!