hotpepper1979

mamab,
Here is part of the reason that it is so hard for me to understand. He has no childhood indicators of why he would feel this way. For example I was yelled at by my dad as a child, and now I cannot handle people raising there voice to me. That is what I consider a childhood indicator. Somtehing that was learned when he was a child that would trigger this sort of responce. This leaves me confused and concerned that it is a pattern that may not be fixable. We have seen a counselor, however I dont belive that the approch of the therapist was what we needed. We both ended up feeling like he wad quielty, passivly wondering if we should be together.