believer

Hi Swedish - as usual, it's good hearing from you & finding out a little about your situation & what you went/are going through. But now, I am alittle confused.
You mentioned you have been divorced and in your second marriage. But you mention, that you & your husband a doing well but are committed to giving time to heal. Are you dealing with trust issues in your second marriage or are you referring to your ex from your 1st marriage. So depending on your answer - I have some questions for you . . .
In your closing comment - you mention that with every hurdle, we can hopefully learn something & apply it positively. similar to the saying that "things happen for a reason" even though we may not what that reason is right now.

I just replied to Cooper earlier & he too was inquiring about the "receipt". Just to give you an update, I have not taken any action. Only thought about what I might do. I need to meet with my therapist this week to help me sort out what to do next. As I metioned to Cooper, is that if anyone was reading our stories in black & white is it pretty straightforward, what we should do. But once emotions are involved - that is not as black & white. I keep trying to live my life - thinking I can deal with this & it's going to get better. But it just doesn't seem to be going that way. I gave the analogy to cooper of when I was in my previous job that was pretty much forced out of. My boss was making my life miserable & wanted me gone, but I chose to fight it & thought I could prove to him that he was wrong about me & that I wasn't going to give up. guess what - I lost. I didn't want to go, but when forced to - in the end, it was such a relief & in hind sight one of the best things to happen to me. ( so I now look at my marriage, and think maybe it could work out the same. I was fighting not to leave, my husband kept making bad decsions but I thought I could change his mind, but he kept making those bad decisions until I was forced to leave)
Besides the option I mentioned previously, about him going to counseling to find out why he lies, what he is searching for, etc. I really don't know what more I/we can do. . . And am getting exhausted emotionally that I am not so sure I want to keep trying anymore. That is where I am at today & will continue to think over one of the biggest decisions of my life. Will keep you posted.

As for you, hope you keep positive and all continues to go well with your second marriage.