inspmike

I've been married for two year to a women with two kids. 19 away at school and 17 jr in high school. I have two also. 17 ready to go into the Airforce and a 15 year old daughter who lives pretty much full time with her mother.

Her kids have always done well in school an are spoiled by their mother. My son will barely graduate but doesn't get into trouble but is for the most part an average teen. My wife won't even speak to him. She hates him. She resents the fact that he doesn't do well in school and "just slides by"

She also won't speak to my daughter for no apparent reason. Of course my daughter has a attitude because she feels she is being slighted.

Long story short, my wife goes crazy when my son does even the slightest thing wrong. Leaves a dish out, plays his music loud etc. Typical teenage stuff.

Long story short, she says she doesn't respect the way I parent them and has no respect for me and is always saying she want out. One minute she is loving and the next she is screaming at me for nothing.

I love her but I just can't take the constant manic behavior and her total lack of respect for my kids. She won't even try. I don't know what to do. I get along fine with her kids because I realize that even when they do or say something stupid, I realize they are still kids. I'm the adult.

Any thoughts?
thanks