Originally Posted by EleGirl
If he filed a marriage certificate with the women (not the OP) then the is a bigamist. While the marriage is technically illegal... it has created a bigamist situation because he has not yet divorced the OP.
He and is current (bigamist wife) will need to get an annulment or divorce to get himself back into a legal marriage standing of being married to only one women.
Technically, since the new 'wife' knows, or had reason to know, that he was not yet divorced she is also committing bigamy. She has committed a felony as well.
My father-in-law was in two bigamous marriages. The first was in the 1970ís. MIL found this out and got in touch with the other wife. The other woman was furious and got an annulment. He was not charged since the other wife just dumped his lying a$$.
Then he disappeared for a few decades. After I married my husband I started searching for him and found himÖ he was married to a woman and lived in Florida. They had been married for almost 25 years and have an adult daughter. My MIL was preparing a suit and legal case to have him brought up on bigamy charges. Then he died. I happened upon his obituary online. MIL has gone to probate court and is getting his assets. He was still married to MIL after all these years. He left her with 4 children to raise. The oldest was my husband who was 13 at the time. Because of this Iíve done a lot of reading up on bigamy laws.
OPís husband is technically a bigamist right now. She could definitely call a DA in the state where he lives and ask to have him charged with a crime.
What on earth was he thinking to get married before his divorce went through?
ElGirl, I admire your tenacity to educate yourself and doing your reseach. The thing that gets me is that when I bring this matter up to certain people (two). They would say to me that I shouldn't press charges because it would only look like I still had a thing for him. That really makes me mad to hear! Especially after all me and my sons (now grown) endored! Be that as it may, I have a feeling that this woman does know (at least by now) that he is still married. But ElGirl, it's not about how he feels or what she knows. It's about riding myself of what I can only describe as a Cancer.
An attorney once asked me and I'm paraphrasing.
"If he is in total agreement to this divorce. Why would I press charges of bigamy before the divorce is final. Something that might cause him to retaliate in some way, changing a simple divorce into something ugly?"
He also said.
"I know if someone were to press charges against me. There is no way I would be so nice to not want to get even."
So this brings me back to my orginal question. Can I press charges after, I divorce him? Either way the crime still exist, that doesn't change. Either way, I need to put on my 'big girl panties'. That a prozac if I have to and get this whole thing none and out of my life.