alytamave

wren, I know that there are some great books out there about building self esteem and having a positive outlook on life. I actually need to read some, but it may sound like your H needs to read one.

I can read your words and they make sense about no one being unlovable, but I can't believe them to be true. After so much crap with my H and even my ex, it's hard to believe I will ever be loved the way I need to be loved.

I guess speaking from experience (myself and how I would like my husband to help me), maybe what you could do is try a different way of supporting him than you are right now. Stroke his ego, tell him you believe he is wonderful, show him love, be confident that he loves you, let him know that without him your life wouldn't be complete. Once he starts to really believe what you are saying and doing, it may help him start feeling better about himself. At least this is how I would like my husband to support me. ???