swedish

If this goes on, she will only further distance you from your kids. It sounds as though your daughter has already chosen to remove herself from the situation.

Your wife seems unwilling to embrace your blended family and has issues of wanting to control everyone around her. It is ridiculous to assume her behavior will have anything but a negative impact on your kids. They were much too old when you met for her to step in and 'parent' them.

If I were in your position, I would step up and tell her not to discipline your son when he is in your home. If he is doing things that you know will bother her, like leave a glass laying around, ask him in your way to clean it up.

If she really won't bend at all and keeps threatening to want out, I don't see much choice other than giving her what she wants.