I need some advice as I am having problems in my marriage and feel it is closing quickly to the end.
My husband was unfaithful before we got married. I didn't know about it until 2 years later, cause I noticed he didn't seem emotionally connected so I started investigating. I told him many times when first dating to NEVER break my trust, I hold that close to my heart. I wasn't ever able to let go of the unfaithfulness in 2 other relationships I was in (those were in High School).
We met in 2000
Married in 2005
- he was unfaithful with a co-worker and the reason was it was a mistake and he was drunk.
2007 - he seemed emotionally distant and I would ask what was going on and he would say work was stressful he had a bad day just general reasons. Intimacy went down of course and I asked he about that and he said the stress was making him tired.
I gave him his space and trusted him that things would pass and get better. They would and wouldn't.
2008 - 2009 Start noticing facebook post on the co-workers photos and compliments he was giving her (I wasn't getting very many). I questioned him on that and he said he was sorry and it didn't mean anything. I didn't believe him and that I when I found a whole bunch of things out.
2007 - he was on 3 different adult sites
2008 - there is another girl that comes into the picture - he says he met her before me but he was asking her to meet up for "fun".
2009 - Everything came out - he NEVER explained any of it.
But I decided to give him a chance and see if we can work through things.
2010-2012 - basically became emotionally and verbally abusive
2012 - here we are 3 years later and there is so much sadness / resentment / unhappiness / you name it it is there.
So my question becomes - are there some people that just can't forgive? Not that you can't move on but it is something that means a lot to have and when it is broken it can't be fixed with the person who broke it?
Open to other questions if more detail is needed on the relationship.
Thanks - Sad