| | Re: Addicted husband..what to do? Pot
Addicts are very good at making deals that they never intend to do. My husband was a master manipulator. Do not make any ultimatums that you are not willing to back up. If you say you are going to do this if he does that then you have to be willing to stand behind it or he will know he can do anything and nothing will happen. I did that. I made huge ultimatums but never did anything until I really got enough. I look back and it is amazing to me what it took for me to get enough. I think you are right about his lack of emotions, etc. I really believe it is because of that drug. Amber is also right about the state taking your kids if he gets busted in your home and you knew about it. That is the way it is in my state. He was never ever aloud to be alone with our kids and I was constantly searching my house for drugs. What a way to live.