Another side note: He keeps saying (excuse) about it being expensive for InVitro and Adopting -- we make together $120K a year. I would think we would be able to afford one or the other.
He's said he wants a child, but naturally. He doesn't want to spend money to have a baby. Not the 'extra' money anyway, because having a family is expensive either way.
The question is, what are you going to do with this information? His mind is made up. Call it an excuse or not, this is the stance he's taken.