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Amplexor · 06-03-2008, 09:27 AM

isabella81

I agree that if your husband is basically a good man then you owe it to both of you to explore all avenues. I would start with counseling. He needs to know how unhappy you are and the gravity of the situation. If he understands that he should be willing to partake. The social upbringing with the macho background is not likely to change significantly in a short period. This is an area that you will both need to compromise in. The hanging out with friends will be a compromise also. If it bothers him you need to make him feel comfortable with it but should curtail the amount of time you spend doing it. You have a right to some time away with friends just as he does. Finally this other person is potentially very dangerous to your marriage. If the “emotions” are there then the physical aspect will likely follow. Be very careful here. I suspect you are in an emotional affair which will jade your views of your husband. I could stack the odds against him and make it impossible for you to reconnect. In order to try and save your marriage, I would end contact with this other person and concentrate on your marriage. You might want to read my thread “When is enough, enough” that I posted yesterday. Good luck.

06-03-2008, 09:27 AM	#5 (permalink)
Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 728	Re: Am I making the right decision? When do you know you've tried all that you can? isabella81 I agree that if your husband is basically a good man then you owe it to both of you to explore all avenues. I would start with counseling. He needs to know how unhappy you are and the gravity of the situation. If he understands that he should be willing to partake. The social upbringing with the macho background is not likely to change significantly in a short period. This is an area that you will both need to compromise in. The hanging out with friends will be a compromise also. If it bothers him you need to make him feel comfortable with it but should curtail the amount of time you spend doing it. You have a right to some time away with friends just as he does. Finally this other person is potentially very dangerous to your marriage. If the “emotions” are there then the physical aspect will likely follow. Be very careful here. I suspect you are in an emotional affair which will jade your views of your husband. I could stack the odds against him and make it impossible for you to reconnect. In order to try and save your marriage, I would end contact with this other person and concentrate on your marriage. You might want to read my thread “When is enough, enough” that I posted yesterday. Good luck. __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.