Originally Posted by blindsideddad
OM is not married. he is young- grad with BA an 2011 i believe. he is a player. took 3 girls numbers at a bar before his new "girlfriend" (my W) was coming into town. they met in mexico- it;'s a long story.
my W is 38, just went to her 20 high school reunion.
Whew! For a moment there I thought you were HurtinginTN, since your story is almost exactly like his when I read your intial post.
Continue to gather your evidence. With her being away, this is a good time for you to gather it. Since this is a long distance affair, she is most likely using the computer too. You may even discover even more. They most likely chatted and skyped. Let me know if you want to find out how to get the facebook chats and skype logs.
Lawyer up and find out what your options are. Then you can confront her when she gets back with the kids. If you want R, then you need to kill the affair, and that means exposure, and unfortunately, serving her with divorce papers. Remember, divorce takes a while, you can postpone it or cancel it if you need to and if she comes out of the fog and does the work to R.