Originally Posted by samyeagar
One thing I do see jumping out at me is your attitude that you rescued her. You saved her from a horrible situation, and I have no doubts that it was, but if that attitude somes through towards her, that she should feel grateful to you, her rescuer, then you have big problems. Regardless, the fact that you rescued her and gave her the life she wanted doesn't really matter. She will never see it that way, and every time you point out the things you saved her from, the further you will drive her away, so you really need to clear your thoughts of how you rescued her, because in her mind, you didn't.
I've never told her she owed me anything, I've never held it over her head or accused her of not being grateful... I've even said that I did it because I loved her and that I was proud of the woman she became. If that wasn't enough to explain how I felt then maybe I am delusional?