Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Am I making the right decision? When do you know you've tried all that you can?

isabella81 · 06-03-2008, 09:57 AM

Thank you for the responses. I am working right now on finding a marriage counselor to help us see if we can get passed these differences. Yes, I agree this other person could be jading my perception of my marriage ..... but it's also making me realize how unhappy I am. I am not basing my decision on the hope of being with someone else. Rather, It is making me realize that there is something missing if I can allow myself to have feelings for another person. I have cut off communication with this person until I can figure out what's going to make me happy.

On another note, He is a good man...but what about the verbal aggression? Do I deserve that? Sometimes he can say some pretty hurtful things and even though they are said out of anger, I can't forget how they made me feel. I also know that there is some truth to what he says, because those feelings can't come from just no where. He can also be very controlling and I am a very free spirit. I don't like to be controlled. To him, his way is the only way.

To Draconis - yes it's as easy to fall back in love as it was to fall out of love...but if I lost that feeling that easy...doesn't that say something?

06-03-2008, 09:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
isabella81 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	Re: Am I making the right decision? When do you know you've tried all that you can? Thank you for the responses. I am working right now on finding a marriage counselor to help us see if we can get passed these differences. Yes, I agree this other person could be jading my perception of my marriage ..... but it's also making me realize how unhappy I am. I am not basing my decision on the hope of being with someone else. Rather, It is making me realize that there is something missing if I can allow myself to have feelings for another person. I have cut off communication with this person until I can figure out what's going to make me happy. On another note, He is a good man...but what about the verbal aggression? Do I deserve that? Sometimes he can say some pretty hurtful things and even though they are said out of anger, I can't forget how they made me feel. I also know that there is some truth to what he says, because those feelings can't come from just no where. He can also be very controlling and I am a very free spirit. I don't like to be controlled. To him, his way is the only way. To Draconis - yes it's as easy to fall back in love as it was to fall out of love...but if I lost that feeling that easy...doesn't that say something?