Originally Posted by Ricky2424
We been married since 1989, and i love her very much from first day we got married. We both same age 45 years of age. Two days ago my wife was checking her email late at night. Next morning I woke up to check my email account but she forgot to log off her account and I thought i was my account. So when I click on email, i notice someone typing dirty and asking her to move in with him. Then thats when I notice it wasnt my account. It was my wife account and was her and another guy exchanging emails. . I read it it all, my heart felt like it stop beating and I got numb all over. The wife who i love so much was having an affair. I trusted her with all my heart and soul. Their emails were full of X rated sex talk to each other. She try telling me it was harmless flirting with a guy she met few months ago on dating website. Then she tells me it was a customer she met at work. She is a cashier for department store. And that they exchange emails addresses and only chat in email only. She is a cashier for department store.I then reply back to that guy asking " who are you ? Why you having affair with my wife?".
This is when i found out the truth. She wouldnt tell me truth so i had to get it from the guy she having affair with. He told me didnt know she was married and that she told him she was SINGLE. He said she doenst wear her wedding ring. He told me they been dating for past 2 years. And that he work with her at the department store. And they been going out for lunch and dinner, and sometimes shopping. He so upset because my wife told him she was single and now wants nothing to do with my wife. And he told me sorry, if i have known, i wouldnt never started dating her. My wife been telling me one lie after another. She tells me they never slept together while they were dating for past 2 years. Should i believe that she never slept with him ? i am so confuse, hurt, numb, and going nuts in my mind. I cant stop thinking about it. Been 2 days now and i still feel strong pains just like when first found out 2 days ago. Someone help me please! How can i deal with my broken heart
I am so sorry you are here. You will go through a lot of different emotions as the shock wears off, but you will get great advice here. Some of the advice will sound rather harsh in that there must be consequences for your wife having betrayed your trust in her. Everything depends on what she does and/or whether she wants the marriage to continue. Having said that, you have more power than you think, and once you accept the truth, it will be time for you to make the big decisions on whether YOU want to continue. Take your time with that decision, however, for your own protection, gather as much evidence as you can, and get checked for STDs.
Did you make copies of those emails? What about her phone? Texts? Does she delete them? Assume everything she tells you is a lie. A watered down version of the truth. Two years and he didn't know she was married? I doubt it. But he is not your problem. She is.