Originally Posted by I'm The Prize
I'm so sorry you're here. Did you not think to ask the guy if they had sex? He seems to be upset that she was married. He may give up the details if you asked him. Especially since they work together and it might look bad for him if you told their boss.
Your wife is deep in this thing and you need to do a 180 on her now. She gets nothing but the declaration that you are going to file for divorce unless she totally comes clean, stops all contact with the guy, and gives you access to all of her communication such as email, facebook, cell phone etc. You can put 180 in the search and find how to do it. There are guys on here that have been where you are. They will give you a lot of advice: follow it.
I don't know if your marriage can be saved but I can tell you that doing nothing will ensure that it will not be.
Keep coming back. We have been there and want to help.
I didnt ask him because I figured he would lie about it. But the wife quit that job about 8 months and they no longer work together. But he told me they still been going out together. And the wife finally admitted that after her lover told me truth.