| | How do I get over it?
I've been to this site off and on but never registered. Recently I found out my wife was having explicit chat with a friend of hers. The guy doesn't live in our state. I confronted her about it and made her write a no contact email in front of me. I also saw the reponse he gave. She says it only lasted two weeks but if I didn't find out I wonder how much longer it would have gone on.
I've started to go to counseling by myself. She has also been going by herself. I told my counselor everything and she gave me a book to read about the five love languages. Interesting read by not very helpful at the moment. The question I have is how do I get over this? How do I start to trust her again? I stopped checking for things like history because it only drives me bonkers. She wouldn't allow me to have access to email, facebook, or phone. I want to trust her but I am having a difficult time to reconcile my feelings. I keep thinking of what they wrote to each other and it sickens me.
I'm not exactly sure if there is a hard and fast answer to this but I guess I'm just looking for a listening ear.