Utopian2630

Thanks everyone for the insight. I am glad I joined this forum to get mature answers unlike some other places where people say awful things. I think some people need to realize that when you get to a certain point, the games are over (at least they should be). I remember reading on another forum that people try to play a game to see how long they can go without contacting someone, which might work for some, but honestly I try to be mature about things. Obviously space is important, and I think sometimes people really do need to take a little time off to regroup and things, but I think simply not talking isnt one way to work things out.

I am certainly willing to do whatever it takes to make things work. She is away right now for work and I txtd her before she left just to wish her a safe trip ( nothing more ) and she did write back to thank me so I guess in some small way the ice is somewhat broken after a week. I am not looking at counceiling as a 'fix all' as there have been some things I've needed to work on as well. I guess one of the things is she is getting closer to a milestone birthday and might be feeling some pressure. Mind you there is NOTHING more I want than to spend the rest of my life with her and start a family, I just wanted to wait for the right time. I've spent the past half of the year paying off my bills and getting some things in order just because I didnt want us to struggle down the road when it happens.

Has anyone here ever had an experience when one person was feeling 'pressure' to marry by a certain age? Am I wrong by wanting to wait a little while ( maybe another 8-12 months)? After a lot of soul searching, I know its what I want, but just wanted to start things off right. How can I effectively communicate this without looking like I am stalling???