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scotty · 06-03-2008, 01:34 PM

i gotta add.
2 years after the twins we stil were non sexual. though much better than after our first child. after the first child they stitch her up to repair a tear and it made her a bit smaller and understandably it was somewhat uncomfortable to have intercourse for her. after the twins she requested no stitches and all was good... still infrequent and i had too wait almost a year. but no pain for her when we did. but the lack of sex had driven me to ask what the course of action was that we should take. well she said she was afraid to get pregnant and didnt like condoms (we never have used condoms) so she told that if i got vasectomy that she would be more relaxed and would want intercourse again. well you can imagine what i did the next day... called the urologist. man i thought it was all figured out. thought that maybe this was the problem all along. she was afraid of getting pregnant. makes sense, yes? even when we were trying to have a baby i we were nervous.. of course. maybe some underlying nervousness was causing the lack of desire. wow i thought i had it all figured out. got the vasectomy in about a month. the urologist check me out as to why i wanted a vasectomy, standard question he said. i told him 3 kids and the wife wont have sex with me til i get it done. he said lets go! not the best thing in the world to have done. they didnt get enough Novocaine in me so when they actually made the "final cut", so to speak. it felt like someone kick me in the groin only worse. i thought i was going to vomit. well they stuck in some more Novocaine and all was good. considdering it all i faired pretty well. was a bit off for the rest of the day and was hyper aware of my privates (weird when they are normaly bouncing around and ya never really notice). other than that the next day all was good, like nothing ever happened. so i waited the next month and a half to be sure all the sperm where dead. now it was time to take in a sample for the docs. i ask my wife to help me out with this part. she would not. all out refused, how dare i pressure her. i can do it on my own she said..... well it did nothing to change things.

so it just goes to show what extremes a guy is willing to go. lets see ummm ok so you will have sex with me if i get my scrotum cut open and have my testicles severed then stitched and knotted and burnt. sounds like a deal to me!

well i think this is my last post for awhile. ive had my pitty party and feel i little better.

06-03-2008, 01:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
scotty Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 10	Re: marriage and sex i gotta add. 2 years after the twins we stil were non sexual. though much better than after our first child. after the first child they stitch her up to repair a tear and it made her a bit smaller and understandably it was somewhat uncomfortable to have intercourse for her. after the twins she requested no stitches and all was good... still infrequent and i had too wait almost a year. but no pain for her when we did. but the lack of sex had driven me to ask what the course of action was that we should take. well she said she was afraid to get pregnant and didnt like condoms (we never have used condoms) so she told that if i got vasectomy that she would be more relaxed and would want intercourse again. well you can imagine what i did the next day... called the urologist. man i thought it was all figured out. thought that maybe this was the problem all along. she was afraid of getting pregnant. makes sense, yes? even when we were trying to have a baby i we were nervous.. of course. maybe some underlying nervousness was causing the lack of desire. wow i thought i had it all figured out. got the vasectomy in about a month. the urologist check me out as to why i wanted a vasectomy, standard question he said. i told him 3 kids and the wife wont have sex with me til i get it done. he said lets go! not the best thing in the world to have done. they didnt get enough Novocaine in me so when they actually made the "final cut", so to speak. it felt like someone kick me in the groin only worse. i thought i was going to vomit. well they stuck in some more Novocaine and all was good. considdering it all i faired pretty well. was a bit off for the rest of the day and was hyper aware of my privates (weird when they are normaly bouncing around and ya never really notice). other than that the next day all was good, like nothing ever happened. so i waited the next month and a half to be sure all the sperm where dead. now it was time to take in a sample for the docs. i ask my wife to help me out with this part. she would not. all out refused, how dare i pressure her. i can do it on my own she said..... well it did nothing to change things. so it just goes to show what extremes a guy is willing to go. lets see ummm ok so you will have sex with me if i get my scrotum cut open and have my testicles severed then stitched and knotted and burnt. sounds like a deal to me! well i think this is my last post for awhile. ive had my pitty party and feel i little better.