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Corpuswife · 10-10-2009, 08:22 AM

Believe: I don't think he's trying to avoid the tax guy. IN fact, he dropped in on him and gave him some papers and discussed a few things. I don't know but I suspect that the tax guy said some things in my H's favor (my H mentioned this in our last conversation). If he does then perhaps my NG doesn't want to be present for a conflict. Heck. That is the only reason that I come up with....He said he would "do it for me." All along he didn't get why to meet witht the tax guy. I am gonna ask him again why...don't expect a real answer though..

K: Quite a story. He never seemed quite disconnected. Visiting often, stuff left at the house. The fact that you got on with your life and had NO sense that he was returning. From your post it's obvious that he missed "family." Still unclear "why" he ran to sudden? Did an event cause him to leave suddenly or give him the momentum to leave? It takes much for a NG to leave.

LH: I see what you mean you feel that you don't have emotional skills because your they aren't controlled. Interesting..hadn't thought of it that way. But again, it all in in recognizing that and "catching" yourself. You seem to be on that track.

At this point, I haven't had any clear signs that he was turning my direction. On some weeks, during our brief encounters I feel him "checking me out" or lingering or noticing things. Usually that occurs when he is in a good mood (I can tell).

This week, his mood hasn't been great (work wise) and he hasn't given me any indicators of interest. Of course, he has no CLUE that he is giving off a vibe.

He is still moving forward with the divorce (tax guy call) and wants it done. Prior to separation he dragged everything out relationship wise. Once we were separated and I did the LMBT, after 2 months he was "done." He wanted out and had the lets-get-the-show-on-the-road attitude. I am guessing that he was highly pained with this separation. He didnt' see the process behind it but only felt the pain (feelings).

10-10-2009, 08:22 AM	#249 (permalink)
Corpuswife Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,632	Re: The REAL world Believe: I don't think he's trying to avoid the tax guy. IN fact, he dropped in on him and gave him some papers and discussed a few things. I don't know but I suspect that the tax guy said some things in my H's favor (my H mentioned this in our last conversation). If he does then perhaps my NG doesn't want to be present for a conflict. Heck. That is the only reason that I come up with....He said he would "do it for me." All along he didn't get why to meet witht the tax guy. I am gonna ask him again why...don't expect a real answer though.. K: Quite a story. He never seemed quite disconnected. Visiting often, stuff left at the house. The fact that you got on with your life and had NO sense that he was returning. From your post it's obvious that he missed "family." Still unclear "why" he ran to sudden? Did an event cause him to leave suddenly or give him the momentum to leave? It takes much for a NG to leave. LH: I see what you mean you feel that you don't have emotional skills because your they aren't controlled. Interesting..hadn't thought of it that way. But again, it all in in recognizing that and "catching" yourself. You seem to be on that track. At this point, I haven't had any clear signs that he was turning my direction. On some weeks, during our brief encounters I feel him "checking me out" or lingering or noticing things. Usually that occurs when he is in a good mood (I can tell). This week, his mood hasn't been great (work wise) and he hasn't given me any indicators of interest. Of course, he has no CLUE that he is giving off a vibe. He is still moving forward with the divorce (tax guy call) and wants it done. Prior to separation he dragged everything out relationship wise. Once we were separated and I did the LMBT, after 2 months he was "done." He wanted out and had the lets-get-the-show-on-the-road attitude. I am guessing that he was highly pained with this separation. He didnt' see the process behind it but only felt the pain (feelings).