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I just went through EVERYTHING you reference Big_D. My wife--'scuse me ex-wife is still in the infatuation phase. You are going to have a tough time ever competing with someone who doesn't have to be real. She doesn't snap at him, she doesn't listen to him snore etc... she only sees his good points. Unfortunately, it takes moving on and forcing the prince charming to live up to the image sometimes before the facade crumbles. All too often that is past the point of restoring normalcy in yours, hers, and the kids life.

If you are not willing to wait out the storm (and there is always a chance that it won't be a passing storm) then you need to make some decisions. I wrestled with EVERY thing. She doesn't want to fix your marriage at this point. As bad as it sounds to hear this--and I heard the exact same words and harshness from my wife is that she is INCAPABLE of loving you or considering that she ever WILL be able to love you--right now the marriage bonds are broken between you and you are applying logic while she is applying emotion.

Its ugly ugly ugly.

Get the book Betrayal of Intimacy and go to the romantic affairs chapter and read about yourself. I swear I read through that and can plot the timelines of our marriage breaking down within days and weeks.

Sorry Bro for this but above all else you did nothing wrong and you need to understand that. She has made and continues to make poor decisions and sometimes you can't protect people from themselves.