Cooper

Hi Believer,
Thanks for responding. Things have been fairly quiet here at home. The wife has really backed off on her cell phone and internet use, at least when I'm around. I'm not sure what that means, either she is being much more careful or has decided to try and be a better wife and mother. There still is a great deal of tension between us but we are going through the motions of a couple. It's upsetting to think that if things don't change we may end up like your parents. I don't know how old you are but for me at the age of 47 I hope to have a lot of years left and I would like for them to be happy!
To answer your question about her decision to get pregnant, looking back one of the reasons I was so upset was the deceit. As part of a couple how can you make such a major decision on your own.
I am a lot like you when it comes to a emotional support, I only have one friend to talk to about this. He is the only one I trust not to spread the word. It's funny, my wife has talked to several of her friends about our problems and some of them have talked to me about what "I" need to do. My wife has a nack for snowballing people into believing she is super wife and mother. But some friends and family see the truth and tell her so. Her Dad and sister have had many arguments with her over how she treats our marriage.
I could write all night about different events that have gotten us to this point in our marriage and Believer I think a lot of the events and resulting emotions would be similiar to yours. We both have some very difficult decisions to make and being able to talk about them with someone going through the same thing helps. Thanks for the electronic shoulder to lean on. Cooper