Originally Posted by MaritimeGuy
I am guessing one of two likely scenarios based on my experiences with my partner.
One she is insecure about her boobs. Like another poster with my partner it's her stomach. If I touch her stomach she feels like I am evaluating its flatness. She's insecure about it and would rather I don't spend time touching it. (Ironically, it's very flat and she has nothing to worry about).
Two, she feels every time you touch her breasts you want to have sex and gets anxious if she's not in the mood. Again, my partner is the same. It seems to help if when I touch her a certain way I state outright whether I'm expecting it to lead to sex or not. It takes some of the spontaneity out of it but if I'm not trying to lead into sex she can just enjoy the caress.
My two cents worth anyhow...
Ya it may be a blend of both in my case. I'm really trying to be more conscientious about it, because I really don't feel entitled to touching them, as sisters359 mentioned. And if it comes down to it, I just will stop entirely.
Oh well, I just wanted to hear different perspectives on the issue. Not looking to validate anything. Sounds like I'm in the minority for feeling the way I do, so I guess I need a bit of self-reflection.