Originally Posted by Michele

I will make this as simple as possible... I have been in a relationship for about 5 years the guy is not even close to the type I use to date, he is a nerd but I love his qualities I am not really physically attracted to him and he is not very experienced in the sack and gets all nervous and then loses it... So I have been having vivid dreams about the hot guys I use to hook up with and how good the sex was... I want to cheat but I swore I would never be that way... is sex that important? I have talked to him about the amount of sex and quality of sex we have and it seemed to have made it worse. Before him the sex I would have was a 10 hot and passionate... the sex with him is a 2 at best I have to do all the work... this is the only thing wrong in the relationship everything else is perfect. I am a fairly attractive female so I am use to guys being all over me, and I miss that. my vibrator is not doing the trick any more.... if i cheat it will fix the need and if he never knows what will it hurt? help am I a horrible person? I love him but the sex wont get get better...