Re: What do I say? What do I do?
Having been cheated on, there was nothing my husband could say or do to make things right. Even though it's been three years since his PA, I still struggle with believing he won't do it again. This is something your H will have to come to terms with, and, him alone, determine whether he can accept what you've done to him and his family. There's no such thing as a mistake when it comes to cheating. You put yourself in a situation where you would find comfort with another man.
What you can do, if you want to try and save the marriage, if your H wants to too, is make every aspect of your life an open book to your husband. He deserves that. Good luck to you and your family. I hope that you two can make your marriage work and get past everything.