 Re: What made your previously HD spouse turn LD?
As a Marriage Counselor and owner for The Marriage and Family Clinic in Denver, CO I have worked with many mismatched desire couples. I have seen several times where the HD becomes the LD and vice versa. There's two things I recommend to help match each other's drive. This may help you feel less frustrated and hopeless
1) become comfortable within yourself. really comfortable. You need sex but be comfortable and strong enough within yourself to not settle for bad sex. Once they see that you're no longer begging for sex and you're fed up with their poor performance, they'll start to get the hint that they better change or else.
2) Keep them informed of what you're doing. Lots of individual try to punish the other spouse by cutting them off from sex. Even if their spouse is already the LD partner they still punish them by cutting them off from sex. Keep them in the know 100%. Tell them you're sick of begging all the time, tell them you're sick of them not meeting to your needs and tell them you won't settle for bad sex anymore. Keep them informed of your process of becoming really really comfortable.
P.S. There's a great book called 'Intimacy and Desire' by David Snarch. This has been helpful for every couple I have worked with.
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