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Jimbob82 · 07-31-2012, 06:46 AM

Some interesting responses, thanks. Yeah, it is often the whole kids-house-job-mortgage thing that kills it dead in the water isn't it, as if they have gained all of these things and no longer need to try any more? Complacency seems to be the key issue.

Of course, kids, especially younger ones, take up so much of your time, energy and patience that you just can't wait for the day to be over. Certainly what's happened in my case too. I often wonder if they just are no longer attracted to the HD spouse anymore, whether it is physically, emotionally, or both.

Like there's no longer any mystery, or the HD spouse got complacent when sex was still a high priority, and gradually stopped making as much effort as the early days (clothes, hygiene, gestures, things like that?), until the intercourse slowy got less and less. Then of course, the knock-on effect of this is they try harder to create a spark that isn't really there anymore - groping, pressuring, sulking etc - which of course repels the LD partner EVEN more - A very vicious circle!

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Jimbob82 Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 90	Re: What made your previously HD spouse turn LD? Some interesting responses, thanks. Yeah, it is often the whole kids-house-job-mortgage thing that kills it dead in the water isn't it, as if they have gained all of these things and no longer need to try any more? Complacency seems to be the key issue. Of course, kids, especially younger ones, take up so much of your time, energy and patience that you just can't wait for the day to be over. Certainly what's happened in my case too. I often wonder if they just are no longer attracted to the HD spouse anymore, whether it is physically, emotionally, or both. Like there's no longer any mystery, or the HD spouse got complacent when sex was still a high priority, and gradually stopped making as much effort as the early days (clothes, hygiene, gestures, things like that?), until the intercourse slowy got less and less. Then of course, the knock-on effect of this is they try harder to create a spark that isn't really there anymore - groping, pressuring, sulking etc - which of course repels the LD partner EVEN more - A very vicious circle!