| | Re: I need some advice
I actually understand a lot of where he's coming from, but what I don't understand is how he acts in response to the things you do.
I think that there is a fine line when your married regarding questioning each other in front of company. It can be very embarrassing especially when you feel like you should be a team. It belittles your spouse and can make them feel like you're just trying to one-up them. That gets old quick. You say you're trying your best but if that were true, you'd stop doing this. Obviously, we don't know the extent of these interactions so I'm just generalizing here. You say you don't belittle him, but have you considered what the impact on him is rather than your intent?
He also wants to spend more time with you and do certain things together, which is never a bad thing.
So...on those things I can see where he's coming from.
On the flip side, he seems to have a really immature manner in handling these things. Based on what you've written, he acts like a petulant child when you make a "mistake". Frankly, he needs to grow the hell up. A real man does not pout when his wife upsets him (for whatever reason). He handles it face on and deals with it like an adult.
It sounds to me like you guys need some help communicating. Communication can break down over the course of a marriage without the spouses even knowing it. I agree he sounds resentful, and he's having a very difficult time communicating that to you. It's so bad, that he acts like a baby instead of like an adult man.
I would suggest that you seek out a marriage counselor to help you communicate better.
Oh...and if he's turning down "sexy showers" he's just stupid. I don't care how angry I am, I'm not turning that down!