| | Re: I kinda had an affair/ inappropriate convo. Need Help!
My W could have written something close to that 1st post. A few years ago, she "friended" her HS ex-bf on FB. About a month later, I got to see a few of their chats/messages. It was mostly friendly interchanges, but mixed in were some things that stuck a dagger in my heart. I shut them both down, and laid down my boundary - if she feels the need to contact any ex, I'm starting the D process. She went back and forth with apologies and defending herself - "I was drunk when I wrote that!" and "You shouldn't have looked!"
I didn't know about TAM, or any other marriage forum, and I didn't know what to do. I did the hysterical bonding thing, I got clingy, I got pizzed, we argued, etc. There really was no R in our case, and this is something that still bothers me years later. Trust is broken.
Wholady - be honest/open with your husband. Bust your azz to show him that you want a strong marriage. Believe me, you don't want something like this to fester in your H's brain for years.
Instant karma's gonna get you. -Lennon