Originally Posted by britney5
I have taken him for counselling, the only reason we were at counselling is because I have been on at him about getting help for it.
So how did the counselling go? You seemed to gloss over this a bit.
[/QUOTE]I have made it clear to him how unhappy I am.
Are you sure? Did he give any indications of actually understanding your point? To me, it sounds like the problem is his unwillingness to participate fully
in a crucial dimension of marriage - sex. Sticking his head in the sand is a defense mechanism, probably to cover up his insecurities about sex. He likely feels as though he is unable to live up to your expectations for a more adventurous sex life. It also sounds like he is not comfortable with his own sexuality.