Originally Posted by heartsdelight
How is your sex life?
I've never really masturbated but I had conservative upbringing. My understanding when I was younger was not that masturbation was evil or anything, just selfish. It's something that should be enjoyed with your spouse. Even now that I am more comfortable with it, I've never really done it. I tried a few times but I get bored easily and not excited fast enough. I'm sure I could enjoy it if I tried but I'm more on the low drive side so I don't bother.
The sexual fantasizing...Less as a child or teen but definitely as an adult (and especially while married) I have lots of fantasies. The only reason I could imagine her genuinely not having any is thinking sex is bad and thus thinking about sex would be as well. Or she's just really low drive and doesn't really care- she has sex when you guys do and that's fine for her.
What's her upbringing like? What's your sex life like?
Her upbringing was not unusual. She was brought up in a Christian household. She does not attend church and has not since we've known each other (23years) as she has said she is not into that . I am HD she is LD and our sex life at the moment is very infrequent and quite difficult. In case your wondering she is in her early 40's.